Divorce can be an emotionally traumatic experience for children that they may struggle to comprehend fully. It can be particularly difficult for divorcing parents going through a contentious divorce to help their children with everything that is going on, which may lead to further complications with the children, making the entire situation even more difficult. If you are a parent getting divorced and are concerned with how you can help your child cope with the situation, consult with a family attorney, as an experienced family lawyer will likely have past experience helping families and will have advice on how to improve the situation.

Tips on Helping Your Kids Get Through This Difficult Situation

Here are tips on how to proceed, including:

• Speak to them openly and in an age-appropriate manner – It is essential to be transparent and help your child understand the concept of divorce. Sit them down and explain to their level of comprehension the events that are happening. Please be advised to avoid engaging in degrading verbal tirades regarding your spouse, and their parent. Children often interpret a parent badmouthing another parent as a reflection of them. This can lead to lifelong emotional trauma.
• Assure them the divorce is not their fault – Children tend to believe that they are often the source of the problem when parents start to experience issues. Assure them that what is going on is in no way their fault.
• Look after their health and well-being – Divorce can take an enormous emotional toll on children. You must closely monitor their mental and emotional well-being as they move through your divorce. Enlisting the help of a therapist or support group specializing in families facing the same challenge can be a way to ensure your children get the emotional help they need.
• Reassure personal love and support – Make sure to continually remind your children that you and their other parent will always love them and remain a constant source of support for them throughout their life. This will help to maintain a stable family unit, even with a divorce taking place.
• Be cohesive on co-parenting – Communicate and set up boundaries and expectations regarding co-parenting. Work on ensuring that both parents attend significant events in the child’s life, such as birthdays, holiday events, and class plays. Cohesive co-parenting arrangements tend to create stability, ultimately benefiting children through the divorce process.

Contact a Kane County Family Lawyer

Contact the skilled and compassionate St. Charles family attorneys with Weiler & Lengle P.C. for guidance on supporting your children through this difficult time. Call 630-382-8050 for a private consultation.

A prenuptial agreement is a legal document that couples sign before they get married, which outlines how they will divide their assets and debts if they get divorced. While it may not be the most romantic topic to discuss before a wedding, creating a prenuptial agreement can be a wise decision for many couples. 

Before you draft a prenuptial agreement in Illinois, there are some important factors to consider.

Discussing the Prenuptial Agreement with Your Partner

One of the most critical factors to consider when creating a prenuptial agreement is communication with your partner. Discussing the prenuptial agreement openly and honestly with your partner is essential. You should explain why you believe a prenuptial agreement is necessary and listen to your partner’s concerns and opinions. Remember, the prenuptial agreement is not just about protecting your assets, but it is also about protecting your partner’s interests.

Divorce can be a complicated and emotional process, and mistakes made during this time can have significant consequences. That is why it is crucial to understand common mistakes to avoid, so you can be better prepared for what lies ahead.

In this blog post, we will cover some of the most common mistakes people make during a divorce and offer tips for avoiding them. Whether you are just starting the divorce process or are in the midst of it, this information will be valuable to you.

Mistake #1: Failure to Disclose All Assets and Liabilities

Another common mistake in divorce is failing to disclose all assets and liabilities. Full disclosure of assets and debts is required by law, and hiding or failing to disclose assets can have serious legal consequences. Failure to disclose all assets and liabilities can result in a court invalidating the entire divorce agreement and may lead to financial penalties.

Most people who hear about prenuptial agreements think that these legal contracts are used by engaged couples who have high assets in order to protect those assets should the marriage not work out and they divorce. And while that is true, what is also true is that prenuptial agreements can also be used to protect one spouse from the other spouse’s debt should they divorce.

How Much Debt Are We Carrying?

Years ago, most people did not “live on credit.” Other than the mortgage on their home and vehicle loans, cash was king. If you wanted to purchase a large ticket item for your home, take a vacation, etc., you saved your money and then paid for the item in cash.

In the late 1960s and 1970s, retail stores began offering customers store credit cards, where the customer could charge their purchases and pay the balance off over time. Although there were some bank-issued credit cards during this time, MasterCard, Visa, and other major cards did not really gain popularity until the 1980s. Today, the average American owes approximately $5,200 in credit card debt.

When a couple is planning their wedding, they are usually focused on their future together and their goals for their married life. Divorce is not usually a topic that comes up during this planning, but national statistics belie that optimism. Although the divorce rate has dropped over the past several years, it still hovers at close to 50 percent. The percentage is even higher for second and subsequent marriages.

This is one reason why engaged couples should have prenuptial agreements on their wedding to-do lists. A prenup is a contract the couple enters into that details what would happen in the event of a divorce. Prenuptial agreements are legally binding contacts and are enforceable, but like many contracts, there may be legal issues a spouse can cite in a divorce that would nullify the prenup.

Contents of a Prenuptial Agreement

A prenuptial agreement can address several issues that the couple would need to agree on in a divorce, essentially stating the rights and responsibilities of each spouse in the event of a divorce. Some of the issues that can be included in a prenup include: